A role shaped by whoever happens to be in it ends up absorbing everything the service has not had the conversation about yet. Curriculum questions. Interpersonal repair. Conversations that should have happened six months ago. Over a term, it shapes how the role feels from the inside, and the person holding it is rarely the one who gets to describe what just happened.

In theory, she leads the way she values. In practice, when the day piles up, she defaults to fixing. She picks up the wrench. She solves what is in front of her, often in a way that is quicker than coaching someone through it. And because she is skilled and experienced, her fixes work. What the fix does not do is build the capacity of the person who brought her the problem.

One of the most meaningful shifts in my leadership practice has been the conscious application of self-regulation, particularly before difficult conversations or a problematic meeting. I have learned that every conversation begins with me, and that my mindset, emotional state, and preparation set the tone for how the interaction unfolds.

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